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Jealousy Girls
You know what's weird about that create-a-model thing via Lane Bryant? You can't create anyone larger than 350 pounds! Oh the irony. Isn't Lane Bryant for the large-sized woman? I created a 90-lb model (don't ask why...it's not important), and then it told me that it had no wardrobe available for a model of that size. But you can *create* a model as small as 50 lbs! So what's wrong with this picture? You can create thin models but have no clothes for them, but for a very very large model that will probably have a wardrobe for them at a real Lane Bryant brick and mortar store, can't be created online?
Scratching my head here.
Once upon a time when I was quite a bit thinner myself (guessing...108 pounds?) I went into a large-sized woman's store (don't know what the store was...it's not important). I forgot why I went in it...maybe I was looking for something I could wear loosely (remember the 80s when big shirts were in?)...maybe I just wandered in not knowing it was for large-sized women. I forgot. The saleswoman looked me up and down and told me to my face "There's nothing here that would be in your size, dear." How freakin' rude! Maybe I LIKED wearing big clothes. Or I could've been shopping for a gift for an oversized relative or friend. Well, they lost a customer for sure, regardless of whether I would've bought anything or not. Can you believe that? It really smacked of jealousy. The thing is, I was never one to make fun of overweight people. For a while as a teenager, all my best friends were fat. I never ridiculed them or made fun of them. I never made fun of fat strangers. So why, as a thin person (at the time) was I subjected to this woman's catty jealousy?
Just this morning I was remembering a time at an art opening when there was a woman with a scarf over her head. I assumed that it was because she had been receiving chemotherapy, as I couldn't see any hair beneath the scarf. Now as you may or may not know, I do have bountiful long, golden hair, not to brag, but I do. Did this woman give me dirty looks or what!?! Was she mad that I was "flaunting" my hair? I mean if you have it, grow it, right? I feel bad that she lost her hair, I feel bad that she's sick, but darn it, it's not my fault. Don't give me those dirty looks!!!!
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And I've been shopping with thin friends and been told the same thing: "Oh there's NOTHING here that will fit you!" Jealousy? No. Power games? Probably. Stupidity and rudeness? Absolutely. If you change the details (instead of fat and thin, think black and white or gay and straight) and apply the same circumstances.
Posted by dargie @ 04/05/2002 01:03 PM CST
Why shouldn't you be allowed to let your hair hang loose just because you have very beautiful hair, I shouldn't be allowed to smile just because I have white teeth then? ;o]
I think girls, and sometimes women, have more of the "jealous at how another female looks and since she look good she must be a bitch so lets talk shit about her." I remember things like that going on at my school. I think boys and men care less about such, they don't get something just because another guy look better in any way than them, at least I've never experienced anything like that.
Posted by Nico @ 04/05/2002 03:11 PM CST
LOL..oh isn't that virtual model thing a riot? what peved me, having gone and done that awhile agao, was that it didn;t have theh air i wanted...so silly really, but damn, the virtual model don't look like me!
one time, me andm y husband went to the Cherry Creek shopping mall in Denver. A VERY rich place to shop...:::they have cadillac escalade security vehicles:::: anyway....we walked in, dressed kinda like trailer park trash, faded jeans, t-shirts with a few holes in them, baggy shorts i had on, and beat up shoes. Well, "we" were comfy...;) And of course, everyone is all fancy and posh and looked like they had just been at the Ritz. So there is a toy store there...K-B Toys, and i walk in. Been in one a thousand times over at another mall, and spend my fair share there. Anyhoo, i go up to the counter to pay, and they weren't sure they could except my check. Then they wanted my drivers liscence...well, i don't drive, so i give them i CO State ID...they weren't sure that was legal.....THEN..they wanted more info.....and i finally had to put my foot down, and said, hey, i may not look like all you putzes shopping in this mall, but i live in this town, i am a human being, and if you don;t think a state ID is legal, you have a problem, and will lose this particular sale.
To say the least, after my fiery diatrabe, they profusley apiologised and i bought what i did. And i choose to never go there again....unless of course i make sure i dress even trashier than before...;)
people,eh?
Posted by Lori @ 04/05/2002 10:08 PM CST
Ann, this lady may have been giving you dirty looks without realizing she was doing it. You can't see the look on your own face, and sometimes your heart shows on your face. Perhaps she was just remembering when she had hair, and becoming angry about what cancer had done to her. It may have just been an angry memory that she didn't realize was showing on her face. (It's happened to me before, and now I always walk around with a smile, just to make sure no one misunderstands me. I hate smiling all the time though, it makes me feel like Forrest Gump or something!) *lol*
As for the sales lady, well you know people spout off without thinking. If she was jealous of you, then that's a compliment, because you are so pretty and thin. Perhaps she had aspired her whole life to be that way, and never made it. :o(
Ack! I'm not trying to preach here! I don't know why I felt compelled to say these things, I hope you don't mind. I'm certainly not trying to say you don't have the right to feel the way you do. I guess I'm just trying to say that perhaps things aren't as rude as they sounded?
I think I am probably just a psychopath, ignore me please... :op (I'm in recovery) *lol*
Posted by Maria @ 04/06/2002 09:11 AM CST
A possibility with the LB avatar is that it comes from the virtualmodel site (thanks for the URL, my hubby made an avatar and it looked like Stan too) and the vm site dictated the dimensions.
I think the secret of not being a target of jealousy is to act so miserably unhappy about life and yourself that other people feel better about themselves... that is... for those people who can only feel good about themselves at the expense of someone else.
Posted by Jane @ 04/06/2002 09:30 AM CST
You're probably right, Maria. I do tend to get paranoid about people's responses/intentions. I had to laugh at the Forest Gump statement. I frequently notice myself smiling for no reason, like it's just a natural state for my mouth to be in, and when I catch myself doing it, I wonder, "geez, people must think I'm ready for the happy farm" or something. Oh, and re: the thin thing...should be past tense....I WAS thin. ;-D heh. (Wisconsin and age does things to the body)
Lori, I love your tales of Colorado...makes me remember the (not so?) good old days! My mom doesn't drive either and she has problems with her CO ID every once in a while too. And this also makes me remember when Stan and I took our friend Tim out to CO. He doesn't drive either (see a pattern here?) due to bad eyesight. We went to the Rio Grande in Fort Collins. They have KILLER Margaritas...stuff legends are made of. Well, unfortunately, Tim, being a WI native and never had a problem getting into bars there, only had an old ID from College (Cardinal Stritch!). It was shortly after his 31st birthday, and granted, the ID was a bit out of date (I think he lost his WI ID which was why he was using the college one), but the Rio Grande wouldn't accept his ID. So Tim had to drink soda pop, and didn't get to enjoy the heavenly, mind altering Margaritas that we lured him out to Colorado with in the first place! Did I tell you Tim is about six foot seven? And his hairline was starting to recede. He was also with Stan and I who were 35 and 34 at the time, respectively, and Bill, who was about 37 or so I'm guessing. What would a bunch of mid-thirty somethings be doing hanging around with an underage kid? It just didn't make sense. Yeah, Colorado is pretty uptight about IDs. They think everyone drives there and if you don't, you're outcast. I even felt outcast in high school because I didn't learn to drive until I was sixteen and three months (unlike the other people in my school who started learning when they were fifteen and nine months!)
Posted by Ann @ 04/06/2002 09:31 AM CST